Monday, February 25, 2013

Library



Today's picture shows the reading room at the Tuskegee Institute. It was taken in 1902. It is striking to me the differences between this picture and what you would find today. One of the things is that these people appear to be dressing for success. They are dressing like the people they want to become. One of the distressing things I find about many young people today is that somehow it has become cool to be a thug. You dress like a thug because you want to be a thug, because the thugs are the cool people. I am not exactly sure when that happened, but wish it were different. Yes, I have the privilege to work with some extraordinary young people, but I am distressed by what I see as a growing trend among young people to imitate behavior that is ultimately destructive to themselves and society.

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  1. I wonder when this all took place.
    The acceptance of letting kids dress like thugs. I know none of my kids dressed like thugs, and they grew up in the 70's and 80's.
    But back then kids played outside a lot more and didn't have all those video games. Men didn't have piercings and earrings and necklaces. It still irks me to see men with piercings, and I see it on older men now, like they are trying to regain their youth.

    I guess I'm just an OLD GOAT that is stuck in a time when people were decent and kids weren't running around shooting up schools.

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    1. I agree with you. Instead of trying to look their best, they're trying to look their worst. I'm still amazed at how people dress now for church. I know you're not suppose to go to church just to show off your clothes, but really, flip flops & shorts. I guess the thing that I can't stand the most is, HAIR on the FACE. Men who are you hiding from? Are you ugly?
      My grandson was not coming to my house Thanksgiving, because I always say something about his beard. I told his Dad I wouldn't say anything. Guess what, both my grandsons & my son showed up unshaven.

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    2. GG-Ma you might want to relax your standards a little and give beards and moustaches a pass. I'm with you as far as the sloppy clothes go but facial hair isn't bad. Alot of great people had facial hair. Didn't Jesus have a beard? Abe Lincoln had one. And me! LOL.

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    3. Yes, Dave they did have beards. I neglected to say, that my sons beard was trimmed, the youngest grandson's was just stubble, the oldest grandson looked like something might be hiding in it.

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    4. Ha Ha Ha too funny. I know what you mean, My wife's brother has this bush growing out of his face, never trimmed. He looks like a wild man. The guy is 6"8" and probably 350 pounds so no one says anything.

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  2. There are a goodly number of us old goats, DADD.

    I have noticed these young thugs at the airports and on planes. A guy with a hoody pulled up over his head causes me to watch him because he looks so sinister. I still hope it is a fad that will eventually disappear one day,but it just seems to grow in popularity. Knowing you are going to fly with one of these guys causes me to worry extensivily.

    Another indicator of how far we have fallen is the willingness of many young girls to dress in a manner that exposes most of those areas of her body that we have always considered inappropriate under any circumstances. unfortunately, there is very little us old goats can do or say much about it. Maybe this too will run its course.

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  3. I think every generation looks back at their own youth with nostalgia. Every generation has their own fashions that their elders disapproved of. Look at the Flappers of the 20's, the Zoot Suits of the 40's, the Hippies of the 60's, the punks and mohawks of the 80's and now the Gangstas of the 2000's. Nothing stays the same.

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    1. And we teenagers of the 50's had our bobby sox and penny loafers or saddle shoes. Where did they go'

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  4. All this thug talk (concern?) makes me wonder... Why not have a series on "thug" vs "decent" look (dress code) through the times, side by side comparison and decade-by-decade classification if possible? Sure some of you must have lived at least in the 60's where the frequency of "sinister signs of moral decay" really went through the roof, hehehe.

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  5. What a person (young or old) wears on the outside does not dictate who they are on the inside. We judge people too much by what we 'see' because we are visual animals. As someone once said long ago "it might be better if the whole world were blind".

    I have faced this all my life since high school. Back in those days I had long hair and rode a motorcycle to school so I wore leather jackets and blue jeans and motorcycle boots. The other students wore the perfect styled clothing of the time and had short hair and were accepted by those who ran the school because they 'fit in'.

    Since leaving school I have acquired two degrees and I have two businesses that employ over 40 people who have learned trades and contributed to society in many ways. I have also been married to the same woman for 32 years and we contribute to the community helping the poor and homeless as well as a long term care home for the elderly. However several of the 'perfectly dressed' students I went to school with have been in jail for embezzlement, theft and drugs. Many of them have had marriages fall apart and children who have suffered for that. Look as well at all the politicians and bankers and assorted others who no doubt went to the best schools and dressed the part and what are they now?……..well if you shake their hands, you have to count your fingers afterwards. Even Ted Bundy the serial killer, he was perfectly groomed and perfectly dressed, worked for a Governor and was even hired as an assistant to Ross Davis, Chairman of the Washington State Republican Party. Davis thought well of Bundy, describing him as "smart, aggressive ... and a believer in the system."

    But to this day I still get the ‘looks’ from people because I still have long hair, long beard, wear leather, countless tattoos and ride my Harleys. I get shunned by people and pulled over by police and ignored when the next ‘garden party’ is arranged. Those are the people who don’t know me and because they don’t know me I don’t care at all about them because I know them for what they are, shallow people.

    My wife told me about a kid she knows who is about 11 years old and he is a ‘goth’. She said he gets picked on every day at school. That’s what that child will remember about school, being ‘judged’ by those who have no right to judge. So I drove down to the school, talked to him and then gave him a ride home on one of my Harleys (with his parents permission). He doesn’t get picked on anymore.

    Forget about what a person ‘looks like’ or how they dress because it means Nothing! Get to know the ‘person’ inside.

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  6. It is nice to see the students dressed in a respectful way. Today's teens who walk around with their pants hanging off their hips with their undies showing look ridiculous, IMO. None of my teens would be caught dressing in today's fashion fads nor would they purchase "pre-ripped" jeans. It seems to me that how you dress is a reflection of how much self respect you have for yourself. Or possibly how hard you are trying to fit the "cool standard" of the day.
    -Anne K.

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  7. I believe in letting my kids be who they "are", but within reason. I don't want to have to look at their boxers, so the jeans stay up, but I'm ok with low rise if they are. When I go to the school I don't care to see kids with their pants around butts, but I always have the right to look away. I agree with the person who made the comment about the guy in the hoodie. It looks gangster to me, but I'm not here to judge.

    My 18 year old has never drank, doesn't do drugs, goes to work, pays for his own apartment, and pays all his own bills. He also plays in a rock band, has long hair, and the mouth of a sailor. I have come to learn that it pays to chose my battles. For a kid his age, he makes pretty good decisions the majority of the time. Even more important is when he makes a bad decision he accepts responsibility for it, and to me that is way more important than how he dresses, or the language he uses.
    So like many, I would like to see youth of today take a little more pride in their appearance, but I can accept that it doesn't make them who they are. Its their actions that make them who they are.

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  8. What a nice picture! I love the girls' dresses, especially the one on the left. I do agree with what you said about how many young people today dress like thugs. I see a lot of people on a daily basis that dress like they don't care how they look. Were it up to me, everyone would go around wearing clothes from the 1800's. I love to dress up and would wear a floor-length dress everyday if it were more practical. I think part of the problem is that it is so hard to find modest clothing for girls, and many just give up and wear low, skin tight clothing just like everyone else. I know it's hard do find clothes I like, in a style I like. I've sewn several historical dresses for myself. I love to wear them and feel very pretty in them. When I see girls wearing short (and low!) dresses, I always think they look uncomfortable in them. If you cover your body up, people will like you for who you really are and not for your body.

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